Areas of Focus
Relationship Issues
You may want to understand why you withdraw during conflict, keep choosing familiar relationship dynamics or struggle to ask for closeness. Individual relationship work examines your part in those patterns without needing a partner to attend.
Who This Is For
We see young adults and adults concerned about attachment, connection and communication. The relationship may be with a partner or a family member. We can talk about how earlier family experiences shape what you expect now.
- Repeating relationship patterns
- Difficulty expressing needs
- Questions about attachment
- Family-of-origin concerns
Focus of Care
What We Work On
Familiar Cycles
The moments before you withdraw, argue or look for reassurance.
Attachment and Connection
Your responses when someone comes closer or pulls away.
Family of Origin
Expectations you learned in earlier relationships with family members.
Communication Choices
A concern or need you struggle to put into words.
How We Work
A session might follow one conversation from the first sign of tension to your response afterward. We draw on EFT to examine emotions and connection, CBT to consider interpretations, and existential work to explore choices and meaning. We look at what you felt then and what you understand now.
- Emotionally Focused Therapy
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
- Existential reflection
- Mindfulness-based attention
What Can Shift
You might want to notice when an earlier expectation shapes a conversation, ask for contact more directly or make a relationship decision. Your examples help us return to goals and look at choices in a difficult exchange, including how to express a need.
What Sessions Look Like
Individual relationship sessions are 50 minutes in San Diego or by telehealth anywhere in California. An exchange you keep replaying gives us something specific to work with. We can look at the words, feelings and assumptions that made it difficult.
Individual work focuses on your experience and responses. Couples therapy brings both partners' perspectives into the session when the shared interaction is the focus. We can talk about which format matches the concern you want to address.
Fees in Brief
Individual, couples and family sessions are 50 minutes. We are in network with many plans and provide superbills for out-of-network benefits. Contact us for rates.
Frequently Asked Questions
Does My Partner Need to Attend?
No, individual sessions can focus on your relationship patterns. Couples therapy is an option to discuss if you want to work on interactions together.
What if the Concern Is With My Family?
You can examine a relationship with a parent, sibling or other relative in individual therapy, including expectations from your family of origin.
How Do I Choose Individual or Couples Therapy?
It depends on what you want to address. In the consultation, we consider whose perspective is needed and whether you want personal reflection or work together.
Related Support
You May Also Want to Explore
Couples therapy addresses shared exchanges, while individual work can focus on your own anxiety or responses to conflict. The related pages make those differences clearer. Your question may concern an interaction you want to examine together, or a personal pattern you want to understand before another person joins sessions.
A free 15-minute phone consultation can start with a relationship pattern you want to understand. You don't need to have the explanation ready.
Start With a Conversation