Patterns and Connection
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
One person asks for reassurance, the other pulls back, and both feel farther apart. EFT helps us look at that cycle and the feelings underneath it, rather than deciding who started the argument.
Who This Is For
EFT can suit couples or individuals who want to understand recurring relationship patterns and needs for connection. Travis uses EFT alongside CBT, with weekday daytime and evening telehealth for clients across California.
- Couples with recurring conflict
- Individuals examining relationship patterns
- Difficulty asking for connection
- Anxiety around closeness
Focus of Care
What We Work On
Relationship Cycles
The sequence of reactions that keeps returning.
Underlying Feelings
Fear, hurt or longing beneath a tense exchange.
Emotional Needs
What reassurance or closeness means to you.
Connection
Ways of expressing needs and hearing another person.
How We Work
We draw on EFT to slow down an interaction and hear what each response is protecting. The focus includes secure connection and emotional patterns. CBT can add a way to examine thoughts that make a conversation feel more threatening or final.
- Emotionally Focused Therapy
- CBT skills
- Emotional pattern reflection
- Communication practice
What Can Shift
A withdrawal or sharp response can be discussed as part of a cycle instead of a complete description of a person. We practice putting the underlying need into words. Wanting closeness and finding it difficult can both belong in the conversation.
What Sessions Look Like
During a 50-minute session, we may return to a recent disagreement and pause at the moment the tone changed. In individual work, we can explore your part in a pattern without needing the other person present.
Travis offers weekday daytime and evening telehealth across California. The practice also provides in-person care in San Diego; we discuss clinician fit and available methods before you choose an appointment format.
Discussing EFT and Clinician Fit
A free 15-minute phone consultation can cover relationship concerns and availability. We can also discuss insurance and superbills, with coverage dependent on plan and service.
Fees in Brief
Individual, couples and family sessions are 50 minutes. We are in network with many plans and provide superbills for out-of-network benefits. Contact us for rates.
Frequently Asked Questions
Can Individuals Explore EFT Without a Partner?
Yes, individual sessions can examine emotional needs and recurring patterns. We focus on the experiences and responses you can describe from your perspective.
Does EFT Mean Taking Sides in an Argument?
No, we look at the interaction and what each response means. In couples work, both partners have room to explain the feelings underneath.
What Does Secure Connection Mean in EFT?
Secure connection refers to feeling able to express emotional needs in a relationship. We explore how a recurring cycle affects that conversation and practice putting a need into words.
How Does Travis Combine EFT and CBT?
Travis uses both emotional reflection and practical tools. A session can connect a relationship reaction with the thought that intensified it.
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